That one time when J’s complaint actually spoke to my soul ;)Read More
Life-learned lessons, relationships, marriage, faith, lifestyle, and everything else in between.
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At the start of each year, we usually get bombarded with images filmmakers, musicians, and athletes being celebrated. But what about ordinary people doing extraordinary things? What about us?Read More
Write down your hopes (not goals or resolutions) for 4 aspect of your life, put it away, and read it 1 year after. Free hand-lettered printable included.Read More
Posting these for the last 3 days have stimulated me to be intentional in counting my blessings and being grateful for them. It might seem hard to do so sometimes, especially when we are distracted or overwhelmed by the bad stuff that are happening in our lives. Trust me, I am not posting/writing from a good place. I have been dealing with a lot of things lately. But you know what? I am training myself to at least give thanks to God for the little things. They don't have to be deep. You can thank Him for your family, the existence of your favorite dessert, the weather, or the fact that Cyber Monday is coming soon (which means most online sellers will offer crazy discounts on Monday, 11/28, my store included!) lol.
However you do it, make sure you promote gratitude instead of competition.
And maybe when we get so used to doing it, gratitude can become our lifestyle :) Let's give it a try, friends!
I didn't really plan to write about this until yesterday when I was reading an article and found out that October is the National Bullying Prevention Month. We have so many good causes being campaigned and celebrated almost every month here in the US. However, beside human trafficking and child sponsorship, bullying prevention is one of the very few that are truly dear to my heart. Just like many of you, I have experienced bullying when I was a child. However, sadly enough, I had to experience it until as recently as 6 years ago, when I was in my early 20s.
With the social media and advanced technology these days, it's so easy for people to voice their opinions about others without even checking the facts or filtering their thoughts first.
I experienced cyber bullying a few years ago due to a horrible mistake that I had publicly made in my workplace. I owned my mistake, I had apologized for it and made amends with all parties involved and damaged by the incident. Even though it was really hard, I had decided to gather the shattered pieces of myself and start over. But women around me were not all excited for me. And I get it. What I did was wrong. But it was none of their business either and it did not validate their being mean to me.
Many of them trash-talked me on social media, deliberately looked the other way whenever I said hi to them, and they never really got over being mean to me until months and months after.
I don't know what is it about women, but we tend to feel threatened when another women are doing something good for themselves. It's as if they're when they start doing something good for themselves, we ask ourselves "But what about me?" - as if that person is better than us. Better according to whose standard? Don't we realize that we are all works in progress? We tend to compare ourselves with other women, and either beat ourselves up for not having what they have, or beat them up and bully them for our own insecurities.
Why the negativity? Why the hate?
So today I'd like to encourage you to love others, be kind, be supportive, without being a doormat. You can be selective when it comes to choosing the right friends, because some people are just not worth your time and energy. However, when it comes to being kind and friendly, we can do that to all.
Feel free to pin or share these images I have created to encourage y'all to be kind to others and listen to these songs that might encourage you too :) If you'd like to campaign the anti-bullying cause in your community or at your kids' school, reach out to organizations like Bee Friendly, Pacer, or Stomp Out Bullying and be part of the solution.
Love how she talks about loving yourself despite what people tell you. A beautiful and powerful music video too.
Life might throw your heart to the ground, but the heart of life is good. Love the lyrics, very encouraging. One of my all-time favorite pick-me-up songs. [youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ism8dBjxKvc]
I am not the mistakes I made, what my family did, or the color of my skin. I am light. India Arie slays as usual in this song.
This awesome dude is my cousin! This song talks about a little songbird who stopped singing because 'those girls and their circles' talked about her. But then the song went on to encourage the songbird to never stop singing. So beautiful.
This song is to encourage you to embrace your flaws and all the bad things that might have happened to you because they have only made you stronger.
One afternoon at a coffeeshop-playdate.
D : I don't know about you, but sometimes I am reminded of and even feeling like wanting the foolish things I used to want in the past. And it stuns me. How could I still want them?
K : Tell me about it. I struggle with that too at times, even after all these years.
D : Really? I thought you got it all figured out. I thought it's all sunny in your life!
K : No, no. Those thoughts are the consequences of our past, right? So they come every now and then. But we can choose to listen to them or to the truth.
D : You're right. Ah man, if it wasn't for J, I wouldn't be a decent human being today...
K : Stop saying that.
D : Saying what?
K : That your kid is your salvation. He's not. He shouldn't be. He might not need you one day, and what are you going to do then? Go back to your old ways?
D : ..... (sobbing, knowing that there should only be and there will always be One True Savior to whom she belong, through her good, bad, and ugly).
*** press play. minute 2 :29 ***
The past and the struggle are real. But He is realer.