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(Now I Know) Why I Do This

Debora Manusama-Sinaga

People blog for different reasons. Popularity, money, influence, etc. No matter how 'positive' the reason is, we must have been caught up in the vanity of this 'industry'/culture at least once or twice throughout our whole blogging journey. 

I have struggled with it too, wanting to stay true to my cause, while still being influenced by what other bloggers do and how they do it ( I've blogged about this a few times before). 

Some people have blogged so well that they can make money from it, some have made connection with celebrities through blogging, and some have touched so many lives.

My reason was questioned earlier this month, when I received a few judgemental comments regarding my blogging. I had the choice to agree with those accusations, or to know where I stand and just ignore them. 

I then started to ask myself, why do I do this? Am I sure that it's not for vanity? Am I being myself here? 

I looked at my stats and follower count - they are not significantly great numbers. I then looked at what I portray here on the blog and on my social media accounts , am I promoting positivity, love, and truth in a very simple and honest way as I said I wanted to? 

I put my phone down, decided to not care about it all even though it's hard to do. 

A few days later, a reader emailed me, pouring her heart out, saying she needed someone to talk to about family, motherhood, and relationship. I was deeply touched and surprised at how so many young mothers out there are needing a friend, someone they can relate to.

 


Met her for some good talk over ice cream and realized that you know what? 

I think I've found out why I do all this. And I ain't gon' stop.

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and to all of you, thanks for reading all these years, I hope my writings have brought nothing but positivity into your life :) 


Accepting Resolution Fails

Debora Manusama-Sinaga

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As the new year approaches, I've been thinking a lot about the year 2014 and how I've lived through it. Have I done enough? Did I achieve what I wanted to achieve? I was looking through my phone when I found this list.

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I believe I wrote this during our new-year's-eve-stay at a boutique hotel in Jakarta, Indonesia last year. I was praying hard for us to finally move to Dallas in 2014 and I was determined to live healthier (physically, mentally, and spiritually). Furthermore, I wanted to have influence. Notice the 4th point right there? I wanted to have more follower and more influence and I want to make money through this blog.

Well, have I? Yeah, a little bit. But not as much as I expected to. Am I disappointed at myself? I was.

The truth is, I had this crazy long conversation with Mr. Man on Thanksgiving regarding my view on social media and blogging and why I'm pursuing this and all that. He was okay with it all as long as I keep J at the top of my priority list. However he did remind me to not want the 'wrong' things. The superficial things.

And by the looks of things, I can't say that I haven't been wanting those things. Cause I did. In fact I still do at times. I mean, I'm a human.

But then I realize that the one who's getting influenced by me the most is J. He is my main 'follower'. Who's actually affected by everything I do. Why can't I just focus more on him, and not the things that I dream of? They will come true eventually right?

Hmm...so yeah, I have been focusing more on J now. Taking it slow when it comes to blogging and actually, I have learned to not care that about the statistics, the follower count, and the view count. My target was to hit 100k views by this month. But I only hit around 95k.

Well, the little voice once again reminded me that I need to do this not for anything else but for the sake of inspiring others. And to let my creativity and thoughts out. Not just any thoughts but the ones that really matter. Same goes with the photos I post and the words I tweet.

And you know what, I feel free. For the first time in months.

I no longer feel the need to match up the other super-mom-bloggers out there and their statistics. I am actually focusing on more interesting things like my kiddo and husb, my new friends here in Dallas, calligraphy, and ehm...photography!

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Yes, I took these myself last week. Pretty nice, huh? hehe...

Anyways about point number 5? I wrote there that I wanted J to be able to say thanks and please by this time of the year. As it turns out, he still can't say any 'real' word. It's okay, I have high hopes but realistic expectation now. I do not beat myself up for it cause I know that my baby is getting there soon.

To sum this all up, I hope this post reminds you to take it easy, manage your expectation, and to not focus on the things you didn't get to do or achieve this past year. Think of the good ones and be grateful for them. So we can close this chapter with a smile on our faces, and open a new one in peace.

Happy New Year!