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Monthly Heroines

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The One Who Transforms Others Through Jewelries

Debora Manusama-Sinaga

She's a military wife who started making jewelries at home in England, where her hubby was stationed a few years ago. Read how the Loren Hope brand is slaying the industry now, what she's learned, and tips to start your own business.

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The One Who Wants to Help Others Get Debt-free

Debora Manusama-Sinaga

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As the new year approaches, most of us have started to think about our goals for 2016. But today I do not want to talk about those 'basic' New Years Resolutions like "lose weight" or "eat more vegetables", because we have the tendency to fail them by like January 15th haha! I want to encourage you to start planning out the bigger life goals for 2016 like "pay off the car debt" or "get a degree", you know, to help you and your family thrive and get on to the next lever in 2016.  

So when I thought about who to feature in this month's 'Heroines' section, this young lady's name instantly came to mind. While most girls strive to be fashion bloggers or even reality stars, Naima Barnes want to help people to get out of debt and stay out of debt through her work as a financial planner and through her newly-launched blog called Finance Your Life.

 

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"I've always wanted to help people," she uttered as we started our conversation at Crooked Tree Coffeehouse one Saturday morning. Growing up seeing her parents being in debt and having to work hard to get out of it, has motivated Naima to help people through the field of Financial Planning. However, it was not until after her first internship during her college years at Ohio State University, that she knew this was the path she was going to pursue. "To see our clients go through different life stages and to know that they are going to be okay because we've helped them, and that they don't have to worry day to day about money anymore, gave me great satisfaction. That's when I knew this was something that I wanted to do."

 

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Naima reminded me that everyone from millennial young professionals, recent grads to 40 year-olds go through changes in life. And "we all need a blueprint, something to guide us financially throughout those changes". That's why she started her blog, which also has an instagram account filled with useful financial tips and inspiring quotes.

 

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Her biggest inspiration is Sophia Bera, a pioneer in virtual, personal financial planning through an online platform called Gen Y Planning. In the future, Naima also aims to start her own financial planning company while growing her blog.

 

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Speaking of future and time, she said something that really stuck to me.

Time always on your side. It is the best thing that you could ever use for your money. Because as time goes, your money could also grow. That is, if you save up of course.

Happy planning and saving, friends! And have a wonderful New Year ahead! :)

The Humanizer

Debora Manusama-Sinaga

Been quoting her, been writing about her, you can tell that I'm so inspired by this woman. She is a mother-of-two strong and gorgeous kids, Ginosko Anugrisa Badudu (Gisko, 11 y.o) and Jasyanda Karunisa Badudu (Syanda, 9 y.o), who graces parenting life with commitment and love. A teacher, a learner, a mother, here is Mara Badudu.
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1. As a parenting mentor, how would you describe 'Parenting' in 3 words?
"CHILDREN ARE PEOPLE". As I have mentioned earlier, children are beings with brain, heart, and soul. Every gesture, word, or reaction that parents project at home WILL be absorbed and copied by the kids. Moreover, these actions will help shaping the kids at the same time! Some parents watch things with adult contents in front of their 6 year-olds, while others punish their kids by locking them in the bathroom. Dehumanizing much?
They might not realize this, but children will only view something as "okay" and "normal" when the parents make it look "okay" and "normal" on daily basis. So when we realize that children are people who have brain, heart & soul, we will surely pay more attention to whatever they see, hear, & feel (particularly from us).
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2. When did you start learning about parenting? How? 
It all started with a calling and a slammed door, not in my face, but in my mother's face. I grew up in an unhealthy christian family. One day, I saw my older sibling came home really late and slammed her door in my mother's face for trying to ask her where she'd been. At that moment, I thought "what can I do to not end up having a kid like this?"
I then started to do my own research, reading books that I couldn't afford to buy at that time (in bookstores, just flipping through the pages), cause I was just so called to do it right. My calling then came into life when Gisko was conceived.
3. So what do you basically do with your kids? 
First of all, I put purpose in my being a housewife and a mother. If you are doing it without a purpose, you will view this role as something dull, boring, and just...pointless. And before long, you will end up in the mall, spending your husband's money and neglecting your kids. I might not have a carrier or a fat paycheck, but I know that what I'm doing at home with my kids is far more important and actually rewarding than any money I could ever earn. So with that in mind and heart, I have been putting purpose and value in every encounter I have with my kids.
I try my best to always be aware of what my kids are going through each day, both good and bad, big or small. I want to know them all, and if there is anything good that I could do to help or fix it, I will do it.
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I aim to be the most comfortable place that my kids could come to, not because I say yes to everything they want, but because I can deliver the truth in a way that is acceptable to them. I realize that I do not have that much time. Researchers have proven that during the first 10 years of a kid's life, he/she absorbs 80%-100% of your teachings. That means, afterwards, they are on their own! we are no longer their 'only source', they will be bombarded with teachings from their friends and the media.
This is why most parents have fights with their teenagers. When their kids were little, they didn't teach them anything cause they thought "kids are kids, let them be". But then they'd try to do what they should've done earlier (which is teaching the kid), when the kid is a teenager. It's too late! No wonder the kid rebels! How can you expect them to listen to you now? You should've trained them when they were younger to face life on their own when they are older. Not the other way around!
4. Now that is an eye-opener! So, what can a new parent like me teach to my kids? Where should I start?
When your kid is still an infant, they can't really do anything so you just need to take care of them with the right attitude and the right spirit, cause believe it or not, babies can actually capture our spirit.  However, as soon as he turns 8 months old, he can already throw things away or puke his food out deliberately. At this point, we can already teach our babies simple manners and values.
What should we teach them first? Let us ask ourselves first, "what do we have to do as parents?" Always bring it back to you, not to the kid. Cause parenting without the parents, will not going to work. It will only be a set of rules that can soon be broken because it will be lacking something. And that thing is connection.
You can't possibly teach your kids anything if they are not on the same page with you. And they can't possibly be on the same page with you if you've never lead them there.
So again, it starts with you, mothers! You have the power that is greater than authority. You know what it is? It's the power to touch your kids' hearts! Use that power, learn how to master it so your parenting and actually your life can be effective! And most importantly, get creative and have fun with it.
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Throughout my chit-chats with her, I have learned a LOT from Mara Badudu. But if I could point out one thought that I think we should learn together, it's this :
 "What most people see as difficult and "too much" (= parenting with purpose) is actually 'easier' cause you WILL reap a good result later. Whereas, what most people see as easy (= purposeless parenting) is actually 'harder' cause you WILL reap a bad result later"
And it's not just bad! it could jeopardize their future if they got into the extreme! (drugs/ teen pregnancy, etc). So let us figure out where we want our kids to end up and make our choice today. What we do now might seem little but the result is enormous! :)